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Hope in the Darkest Night


I remember when our nine-year-old Sammy was just a baby. There was quite an age gap from Sarah to Sammy and I was trying to adjust to having a little one again. One Sunday after church, someone asked me if I thought we’d have any more children. I think I may have gasped! I said something to the effect, “I can’t even begin to imagine, my cup runneth over.” This sweet little mama just looked at me and said, “If the Lord adds to your family, He will be faithful to sustain you.” I have held onto those words for years.

Soon after the news of Justin’s accident, I thought back to that conversation once again. I would whisper to myself, He will sustain me, He will sustain me. And then, O’ God, please, sustain me! It was a few weeks after the accident at this point and I began to feel confused and angry; I wasn’t “feeling” sustained! I was feeling the deepest pain and anguish that you can ever imagine. Where was God and why wasn’t he sustaining me? I cried out to him, Lord, where are you? You said you would sustain me, but I am still hurting!

Honestly, I don’t know exactly when he answered me, but he did. I realized that my understanding of sustain meant that God would take the pain from me. I thought that somehow he would lift it and I wouldn’t hurt so deeply.

Dear one, he is sustaining me, it is just not at all in the way I imagined. The weight of my grief is heavy. He doesn’t make the pain disappear, but he is with me in the pain.

  • He illuminates my heart to his Word and I partake in a heavenly fellowship with him.
  • In the intense moments of despair, he is the lifter of my head.
  • He provides songs of comfort for my grieving heart.
  • He helps me to look back and reflect on His goodness as I remember all of the rich time that I got to spend with Justin.
  • He provides for our family’s financial needs as we are in crisis mode.
  • He makes a way for my husband and me to have date nights and connect for some sense of normalcy.
  • He has provided for our dear Sarah and is taking care of her in ways we could have never imagined!
  • He has provided a beautiful group of ladies a.ka. the “Hot Mess Sister’s”, I will write more about them one day.
  • He has provided family counseling for us where we have been assured that this grief is not a life sentence for our family; he is our Healer!
  • He gives us laughter in our home with three precious little boys to care for and a legitimate reason that I MUST get out of bed every day.

These truths are still being worked out in my heart. This I know, “The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love.” Psalm 103:8

He is most definitely sustaining me for I have this hope:

And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.” 1 Peter 5:10

Resting in His sustaining grace,


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5 thoughts on “Hope in the Darkest Night

  1. Donna Miller

    Missy I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am praying right now for you sweet sister. I am so thankful that you have Jesus and that you are able to have this outlet with your beautiful writing. Hugs and much love sent your way … ❤

    1. keepingmypromisejustin

      Donna, thank you so very much for your prayers, I know the Lord hears!

  2. christartist

    As a mom of five, all that have grown and moved on….I cannot imagine your pain, though I’ve had close calls. I’m so blessed that you are sharing your grief, because we need to know that grief IS part of our lives as Christians! I just wonder at Christ’s grief on the cross, looking out over the years, and knowing some will be lost. Thank you for your transparency.

  3. Olive + Maple

    Can’t imagine your loss; so sorry for what you are going through. Thank you for sharing the ways that God is still there for you. Praying for you today.

    1. keepingmypromisejustin

      Thanks so much for stopping by. I so appreciate your prayers and your encouragement! ❤

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